I wrote the following words several years ago and included them in my book “Intermission.” I share them again on the occasion of my 42nd anniversary. As you read these words you will better understand how 42 years is possible.
A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. (Proverbs 31:10-12)
Finding the right person to marry can be one of the most foreboding tasks in all of life. In fact, it is such a difficult decision that many young people give up and settle for less than the best. The acceptable approach to marriage today is to try it for a short time and if the relationship fails, bail out and try someone else.
Fortunately, I was spared the difficult process of striving to locate the perfect mate. I sometimes wonder if God knew I did not have enough sense to make a good choice so He made it easy for me. I share how I found a wife with some apprehension. It is an experience that is not normative for most people. In fact, I would discourage anyone who thinks they might have a similar experience.
Sharon and I met at church. Although I was already a freshman in college, I still participated in the youth group. The youth program was led by Sharon’s parents and was built around a musical group called the “Proclaimers.” We traveled to churches around the state of Colorado and even a couple of trips to churches in Texas.
It was a grand experience for all of us involved. I knew a little music and played a couple of instruments, but it was in this singing group that I learned how to harmonize. Sharon’s mother played the piano in the style of Jerry Lee Lewis. She developed the skill as a very young girl as she played for church. Elva assigned everyone in the group a part to sing on each song. During practice, if you could not find your note, she would beat it out extra loudly on the piano until everyone was back on key. She could lead an entire congregation in singing without ever saying a word or leaving the piano bench.
We learned how to sing from the heart. Although the music might not have been award winning caliber, the presentation was always meaningful and many people were moved by the sight and sound of committed young people singing about the love of God. We all developed some great friendships within the group.
When Sharon graduated from High School she moved across the state to attend college. Although we were friends, we did not date nor did we consider any type of long-term relationship.
In the providence of God, Sharon and I both transferred to Wayland Baptist College in Plainview, Texas, at the beginning of the spring semester in 1973. We arrived at the Texas campus in the middle of January and neither of us knew anyone else. Continue reading